What is sexuality?

What is sexuality?

 

Often, when we talk about sexuality, we tend to reduce it to only one of its many dimensions: sex. In fact, we tend to reduce it so much that it only refers to sex in heterosexual relationships. But, what is more, in those heterosexual relationships, it is reduced to the penetration of the penis into the vagina, coitus. In other words, when we think of sexuality, the collective imagination leads us to think of coitus, but nothing could be further from the truth!

In reality, «sexuality is a central aspect of human beings, present throughout their lives. It encompasses sex, gender identities and roles, eroticism, pleasure, intimacy, reproduction and sexual orientation. It is experienced and expressed through thoughts, fantasies, desires, beliefs, attitudes, values, behaviours, practices, roles and interpersonal relationships. Sexuality can include all of these dimensions, however, not all of them are always experienced or expressed. Sexuality is influenced by the interaction of biological, psychological, social, economic, political, cultural, ethical, legal, historical, religious and spiritual factors» (WHO).

To think that sexuality only refers to sexual intercourse between a man and a woman is a heteronormative and coitocentric belief, which makes the other dimensions of sexuality, as well as sexual and gender diversity, invisible.