Virginity myth and first times

Virginity myth and first times

If we look up the word “virgin” in the dictionary, we will probably find a definition like this: person who has not had sexual relations.
What happens is that socially a person is considered a virgin when they have not practiced intercourse (penile-vagina penetration), which focuses the importance only on this practice and establishes a hierarchy with the rest of sexual practices. With this belief, sexual practices such as kissing, masturbation, oral sex, petting , erotic massage, among many others, are reduced to the idea of «preliminaries.»

There is a false belief that the first penetrative relationship of the penis in the vagina (if this ever occurs), breaks the hymen. The hymen is a tissue located near the vaginal opening and is present in the body of women and people with a vulva from birth and has multiple forms. It is not a membrane that has to be pierced after intercourse, as still resides in many minds and/or cultures.

Therefore, virginity is a social construction that contributes to us thinking that an erotic encounter “is not complete” if it does not include intercourse or some type of penetrative practice. So we invite you to reflect on this and deconstruct this belief.

For this reason, we prefer to talk about first times , to get rid of the social pressure that often comes with the idea of virginity (too soon to lose it , too late…). It is very important that we explore at our own pace, with the certainty that we want it and we do not do it out of pressure, freely choosing our pleasures.